Learn to express yourself better

Learning to express oneself better is different from learning to communicate better, in that it is a one-sided job, in...

At Beautiful Soul, we use two tools to support people who want to develop skills to better express themselves.

  1. “As we speak: how to make a point and make it stick” which describes an effective method for preparing for events such as presentations. This is a method that we taught participants in the Francophonie competition "My thesis in 180 seconds" when we were contracted to prepare them for the final, in 2018.

  2. “Lift: the fundamental state of leadership” which explains a method of preparation for high-stakes conversations. This method is used "live" by some of our coaches during their coaching sessions with leaders. Recently, we used it with a Managing Director who was preparing for a negotiation meeting on his redundancy package, for example.

Both methods are described in books of the same title (by Peter Meyers and Shann Nix for the former and Ryan W. Quinn and Robert E. Quinn for the latter). You can get them on Amazon.

Before describing these two methods, it seems useful to remember that we express ourselves more than 80% non-verbal.

Indeed, the people who listen to you tend to pick up visual signals much more finely than the content of what you say. Thus, to express yourself well, it is first and foremost necessary to make sure that your clothing is adapted to the circumstances and that you are in a serene, even confident emotional state.

Some of us at Beautiful Soul systematically go to their hairdresser, manicure and tailor before any important speech while others make sure to do their meditation session in the morning. Learning to express yourself better
Learn to express yourself better

"As we speak: how to make a point and make it stick": a valuable tool to help you prepare, structure and deliver your communication

Based on the method described in Peter Meyers and Shann Nix's book, we have developed our own tool to help people :

  1. Take a step back and prepare their communication by making them question their intention, the key messages they want their interlocutors to have retained at the end of their communication as well as the emotions to make them feel.

  2. Structure their communication and anticipate all scenarios (how to conclude your communication, how to reformulate, how to react in case of a trick question or face an aggressive person, etc.).

  3. Deliver their communication with impact, taking into account both the entire non-verbal dimension (smile, posture and movement, face and gaze) and their physical, mental and emotional state.

"Lift: the fundamental state of leadership": the power of positive intention

In their book, Ryan W. Quinn and Robert E. Quinn demonstrate how the sheer force of our intention can have a positive effect on the people around us and how our psychological and emotional state influences those around us, especially our professional ones.

For Ryan W. Quinn and Robert E. Quinn, the best leaders are usually those who ensure the well-being of their employees. However, despite the best of intentions, they can sometimes be caught up in subtle emotional states that they are not aware of.

Thanks to the Lift method, we help people prepare for high-stakes conversations by making them wonder about:

  • The goal they wish they had achieved at the end of their conversation?

  • What values do they want others to uphold when they speak to or appeal to them?

  • The best way to formulate their messages to be aligned with the values they have identified.

Would you like to learn how to express yourself better? Do not hesitate to contact us by clicking here.

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